Tuesday, May 29, 2007

Through the mind of Rashmi Nagaraj

This is just an attempt to read the mind of Dr. Rashmi Nagaraj who committed suicide last week in Bangalore. She had obtained 74th rank in the Po s t - G r a d u at e Entrance Test but failed to get the subject of her choice.

Today has been the worst day of my life…I have never felt so low in life. Life at KIMS was so…normal!! I had built a thousand castles in the air. My parents expected so much from me. I was at the peak of joy when I got 74th rank in PGET…wanted to take up paediatrics or general medicine..Went with all hopes for the councelling only to know that I would not get what I wanted…

I am here on the terrace..I can hear voices around me…Is it someone who is searching for me? No can’t be..It’s too early for someone to notice! Must be just those kids down the block…living their happy lives…Dad is still at the university enquiring about the seat…I don’t know if he would miss me…but it doesn’t make a difference now…

My life now depends on these 50 phenobarbitone pills I have with me. I wonder how many it would take for…I have lost hope. This was my greatest dream and I have lost that opportunity…I can’t wait another year to write the test again…I just can’t do this anymore. Everyone, my parents, relatives, everyone was waiting for this day since I wrote the test. I can’t believe this is happening!

Let me take 10 pills now…The authorities have offered me a seat in microbiology! But who would like that?? That doesn’t have any value..They talk as if they are doing me a favour..I hate this…Just let me pop in 10 more of these! They don’t seem to have an effect on me yet..

In my years of medicine I have always pondered on this sensation of death. How would it feel like to die..What am I feeling right now..A slow drowsiness is it? But I want it to death..I know death is not the way of escape…But I want to…End all this..I cannot face all around me in this state of defeat. I hate myself, hate all around me too..I better eat 10 more…I want to end this trauma forever ,ever…..

As I wrote this…even though I tried to justify Rashmi…I could never get to the depth as to what could drive the girl to this moment…Just in case there are a few reading this who would like to try interpolating what could have been her state of mind. Please do…There may be things we might have never thought of…You can also refer this.

Friday, May 25, 2007

My romance with the rain!!

On Wednesday and Thursday it rained heavily in Bangalore. A huge relief to the hot week that went by. With the first thunder and lightning attack…pop went the power supply (I know…you would be saying tell me something new!). Had absolutely nothing to do. No TV….can’t go out…Can’t wash clothes….So I thought why not write something. Maybe because of the rain and chill effect it turned out to be a bit of romance, so spare me…



Each drop that falls on me,
Brings a drop of his love,
The cool breeze engulfs me thus,
Like his arms to keep me warm!

It is my dreams I see in his eyes,
My faint smile on his sly lips,
My life in each breath he takes,
My innocence in the pranks he plays!

My love has the colours of a rainbow,
It flutters with the wings of a butterfly,
Unknown and unsensed by all around,
Love does the dance of joy within me!


Please I don’t want to write anymore…It seems like some silly stuff already!!! But worth a laugh definite…So enjoy the weekend guys…If you are feeling low…Read my poem…
Whatever!! Anything to bring a smile on your face…..Life Rocks baby!

P.S : By the way I prove a point here...not every Tom, Dick and Harry can write...So hats of to all you gus who write amazing stuff!!

Wednesday, May 23, 2007

Children of Heaven

Before I tell you about the movie I should maybe tell you about the person who told me to watch this movie, Jay Shankar…A quiet person who he seems to be (forgive me if I am wrong) prompted me to watch this quiet movie.

It is an Iranian movie by Majid Majidi that won accolades at the 1997 Montreal Film Festival. Now that info is thanks to Google..A simple movie about a little boy Ali who lost his sister Zahra’s shoes. The entire movie revolves around this theme. There is not much of a story line here but a lot of messages that do not meet the “naked eye”. That is exactly why I waited for a few days before writing this post. I wanted the movie to grow on me before I could comment on it.


Sometimes in life small events can teach us loads. Shouldering responsibility is something the movie teaches. The 2 little kids take the responsibility of the family from their parents so well. Cleaning the house, doing the dishes, cooking, helping in their parents work and also studying so well. Something most of us fail to do so!

The movie shows how we can bring a smile to the face from simple things, like the scene where the kids blow soap bubbles or where they share the pen! Sometimes in life we are so carried away with our tensions that we fail to see little joys…I know I shouldn’t say this as I’m a typical example for such a person!

The movie leaves us with a happy note picturised my mesmorising scene of the fishes in the pond. With all the positive emotions that came from the movie there was a sad one I found. Sometimes even if we win the race we may not be happy and get what we actually want! Happiness is individualistic. A poor man sleeps happy and content with 3 meals a day where a rich guy can be unhappy inspite of all the material riches!!

A must watch movie especially if you are looking fro some simple joys!!!

P.S :This is for you Rajeev...Watch the movie here itself(the first 2 slides)

Monday, May 21, 2007

Weekend with Bingo and Ice Cappuccino

Hmm…that was a weekend well spend. Friday was quite boring as I had a training to attend post shift…How I dread these! Turned out to be interesting as it was on LINUX that I had no idea on…Come to think of it…I had no idea on anything when I started working..

My friend , Nagu came on Saturday morning. She was late thanks to the “special” train from Hyderabad! Saturday turned out to be good overall. Had a bit of fun when we dropped by at Forum. There were 2 promotion stalls at Forum. Both silly but had free goodies..

There is the new chips in town- Bingo!! The game as silly as their ads..Remember the series of ads that say “No Confusion..Just Bingo!” or something like that..(Watch one of those nonsense ads here) Now where did they get such a pretty dame for that ad!! The game was to say Bingo in 3 different accents..Was that a game? The other one, even more ridiculous, was Ice Cappuccino (yeah…the sip..lick..mmmm..one) that made the people around actually do that and took photos with the frost mushtache..(Watch that ad here)

Later on in the day one of my friends, Venky, who is getting married next week gave us a party at Popsies in Koramangala!! It was a fun filled party as we were all making so much of noise that they finally switched off the lights indicating “go home” time.

Sunday was pretty uneventful…Watched Spiderman 3..Nothing much to say abot the movie…Definitely not as good as the other 2. We hooted when Spidey boy cried!! I had heard this from those who watched this earlier..Just wanted to watch it for the special effects on big screen…
Now that I am having fun in life again….what to say..all’s well that ends well. Is it?

Friday, May 18, 2007

Back with a smile!!!

I know I haven’t posted anything for sometime…Was asked by a couple of friends as to what’s up? I gave it a thought…Well I guess I am a little embarrassed to be frank….I really broke down that day but then there was a lot of nice things that happened through out the week…

I knew I was not the only one out here who is in such a situation (Not that I didn’t know…but it’s nice when someone says so!!!) I got a few suggestions as to what I should do to make myself happy…which I have already taken up…That explains the smile on my face…(just in case my tone in writing fails to show it)
There are two that have really touched my heart and I think I should share it. These are from two very dear friends of mine…

One of them asked me a question I have never thought of…”Do I believe in the power of prayer?” Well I am a god fearing person…Do pray…but have I prayed in specific for my problems?? No…My friend told me to believe in the power of prayer…To pray for me and my problems in specific and all who face such similar problems…She said that unless I am willing to share my sorrows with God, how would he help?? Hmm…never thought of it that way at all…

Then there was something else that someone very close to me said…unless and until I do something that makes it worth a while to remember me…why should anyone remember me? True…I have not done anything to hurt anyone…but have I done anything to make people remember me or miss me? This question stung me…and I am still pondering on it…
Till then take care guys…Have a happy weekend!!!

Monday, May 14, 2007

Sorry I freaked out....

I know I really had a bad pout yesterday...Maybe I should have not written all that...But I wanted to pour it out somewhere atleast...Did I feel better after that???Yes it did...I think I did my part of crying in front of the computer itself...

Did it fix the problem??? I don't think it can be ever fixed...These moments will keep coming up..But there was a good thing that emerged from that day....
The comments I got from this person..... who is this me!!!

I have no idea who this is...can't seem to trace this person too...This person not only sympathised with me but also given me a solution... And when I read through his comment and suggestion as follows I thought why not?? Let me give this a try....

tsk tsk, now now, that doesnt really sound like 'life simply rocks' :-) can i suggest something - why dont you get involved with an NGO, and if you are looking for one - http://www.dsfindia.org/

I dont know much about this group myself, and I am not much of an NGO guy myself, but I guess working with one would do you a lot of good and this is someone who I believe is directly involved with DSF -

http://www.orkut.com/Scrapbook.aspx?uid=6363174499451951697
I am saying this because a couple of times when I was really depressed, I happened to visit an orphange with one of my friends and it really was a refreshing experience - to see kids, spend time with them, play with them.

To be honest, never have I felt that life rocks, but you seem to be a very bubbly person in general, except when you have these bouts of depression, I am sure this is just a passing phase. Be assured, things will get better soon.I am not too sure if you should put this comment in the public domain, not that I would mind, but I wonder if it got a little too personal. In case you dont appreciate the whole thing, really sorry about that.

As a foot note I would like to add...I have written to them...Maybe it turns out to be a brilliant idea...Thanks a lot friend...And in case you would reveal your identity to me....I would thank you personally...

Thanks everyone who send me those wishes...
Nagu...I know you will be there...Thanks Jeevy too...I'll always keep this in mind!!!

Saturday, May 12, 2007

Me at my worst

I'm at it again...I'm going through one of those stages of depression again. A point in time that reoccurs all the time...Sometimes I think I am content with life. I have a cool job in one of the top MNCs, a 5 digit salary that I don't use at all, the time to myself, nice people around me, all the fun I want to have...everything. But then again...I don't have anything at all...

When I think of what do I have from life till now...nothing at all....what have I got from life...nothing at all...what have I given my life so far...again void...Sometimes I think of it...there is not a single soul in this world who would miss me if I am gone....

I think of my parents...Yes they love me like any other doting parents....but am I an essential component of their life?? No, they life would go on even without me...my sister...she too loves me...but again I am not a part of her sphere of life. Have I made a friend who would miss me by the second....No... Love....was never lucky in that any time...Then what is the purpose of all this...

Why is it that no voice comes out of me even when I cry? Why is it that even in a crowd of many happy people I feel loneliness..an emptiness inside me...Why is it that I sometimes don't even believe in the smile that I put on my face?

I sometimes feel I am an odd person...Someone who is not a part of this world...I feel there is no one in this world who can love me for what I am...Looks....forget it...how much can I comfort myself thinking not evey other person is Aishwarya Rai? I'll never be noticed for my looks...And character or behaviour...do I really have anything like that which would impress anyone...No..

There is nothing in me that is worth anything...Sometimes I feel I live for just the sake of life....Each day passes just for the reason that the sun has to rise and set...How longer will I live this empty life...I only don't know...Will never know...

*******I really don't know why I am sharing this on this space but sometimes I feel there should be something left behind....something that tells the world thatI was here too....

Foot Note : I'm not the only one ....check this.

Thursday, May 10, 2007

Appearance does matter....or it doesn't...confused!!!

Have been watching a lot of interviews of normal life leading people (star interviews are crap) these days thanks to Sun Music or shows on Asianet and Surya for dedicating songs…A common question asked is “What kind of girl or boy do you have in mind as life partner?”

The cliché dialogue always follows…kind, understanding, caring etc etc. Then the question arises, “How about looks?”…Bang comes the answer too “ Doesn’t matter ....should be presentable.”
I always wonder if this is really true……….


I often think…Personally I wouldn’t mind the looks of the person I get married too…I say that to myself all the time…But would I marry a guy with long braided hair, a tattoo on his arm, a ear piercing and god knows where piercing…He may be the ultimate sweet guy who complements me perfectly…But will I say “ I do”…Well sorry NEVER!!!!
I would appreciate the guy as a friend,a colleague but life partner…no ways…

As for guys…I have no idea as to how they expect girls to be ( that explains why I’m not married yet…or does it not??? I don’t know!! ) But would a guy exactly go ahead and marry a girl going around in one of those low waist jeans and tiny shoulder less tops and heavy make up…Well maybe they would…I don’t know..On a sudden thought why am I writing this post…I’m confused!!!

But come to think of it…have a feeling looks matter all the time…personal life or professional life….Then why do they say looks don’t matter, it is what inside that does??

Tuesday, May 8, 2007

Friendship is tough at times

My dear friend…
There were times we were together
And now we may be miles apart
Years have rolled past us now
Think of it I really wonder how!!!

We had our good times those days
But there were differences too one says
But isn’t that how friendship works
With ups and downs,fizzes and sparks??

Maybe we thought all was at rest
But then why the sudden test?
I have moved on in life
And thought you did too!!!

My dear friend,
Friendship is not playing a game
There is nothing here to tame
Relations here are give and take
Where there is nothing to fake!!!

You lived by choice in a shell
With boundaries I couldn’t tell
Wasn’t my fault you were on your own
And your heart was nearly torn!!

Just an advise to you to keep
Friendships are difficult to reap
Have a heart with plenty to give
Life will be a lot easier to live!!!

Monday, May 7, 2007

April showers on a great weekend!!!

The thunder and lightning along with heavy rain was back with a bang on Sunday!!! All these days I was so disappointed that I was never caught up in the rain even though it rained or maybe drizzled almost every afternoon. All my disappointments washed away with the rain on Sunday.



One big difference between Kerala and Bangalore…..in Kerala when everyone backs off when it rains and walk around only with umbrellas in the rain, Bangaloreans consider umbrellas totally uncool!!! You can see everyone getting drenched in the rain however strong the rain!!

And woo…I had a time of my life on Sunday…got totally drenched and went all the way to Bannargatta in that rain. I love the rain. It signified a lot of things in my life. It carries a mixture of emotions….Happiness when it drizzles and sorrow when it pours. I have always wondered how it would be to cry silently in the rain…Would there be tears? Would anyone know?
I still wonder….



The weekend was good…celebrated my friends birthday with a super black forest cake from Coffee Day….Mmm…That’s still smacking my lips!!!

Friday, May 4, 2007

The dark hands of the Law

I know Manju did cause a stir among all of us through her consumer case…We pulled her leg big time when we all met up last weekend. But jokes apart I seriously wished all this would turn out well for her. Was also a bit concerned as she was off to a place where she doesn’t know the language too. I hoped for the best…

Talking of the issue for 2 weeks we really hoped all will be well..But little did we all realise that these are the ways of the law. Manju and a friend of mine Surendar ( Suri who knows kannada) went to this so called consumer court. Outcome of the trip in one word……Sunny Deol’s famous dialogue in movie Damini……”Thareeq” (or date for those who don’t follow Hindi)

It seems will now notify the company of the issue, the company hires a lawyer and then they continue on another date. When Suri tried to ask one of the lawyers there about the process he confirmed that all they would get is thareeq. He showed with examples right there in the court. There were people who asked for dates because there was a wedding in the family, or they were going out of station, or unwell etc etc….

As Manju observed all the people in the court were senior citizens…I guess these people filed their cases when they were as young as Manju…..LOL.....So incase she wants a ruling on this case…she sure has a long way to go…All the best!!!


Meanwhile here is a snap of hers in one of those happy moments that is before she gets old waiting for her court decision….
Better stop now before she kills me for all this free publicity!!!

Wednesday, May 2, 2007

We meet again!!!

Know it’s been a long time that I haven’t posted anything. Just that my mind was off on some other things. I’ve just been distracted. I have been reading Harry Potter for the past week. It was really getting difficult as I had to read in office between all the break times I had…which I used to utilize to blog before. Now that I’m done with the book it’s time I’m back.
The weekend that was….

It was a precious weekend for me. A time I got to meet some of my old pals of college times. A long time has passed since we all had some time together. There was a time when we had loads of them….at Ali’s juice shop, or Raghavettan’s photocopy cum telephone booth, movies together, trips together, studying together or just lazing around.



A lot of waters had flown in between. Time drifted most of us in different directions. I thought time had the better of us. But this weekend when we met I knew nothing had changed. Age had caused baldness in some, small tyres in others and white hairs too…but the spirit was all the same.

We still enjoyed pulling each others legs, making noise over nothing at all or in plain words just being together. Sometimes there are some relations we treasure a lot and don’t understand their true value till we drift apart!!