Wedding aftermaths!

The wedding's over. I am back in Bangalore. I had no track of time when I was at home. So much to do and so little time. It all seemed a mad rush. Now that it's over I get the space to think over what happened in the past week. It all happened so fast. My sister introduced the idea at home, a visit by my parents to Hyderabad, engagement on Jan 21 and wedding a month later.

The wedding was hectic. It was a coming together of two different cultures and their respective rituals but all was well at the end of the day. The wedding was a huge learning for me. It put me face to face with a lot of facts that I chose to ignore all this while.

I realise that the people who stand next to you may not be the people you expect. It is easy to stand beside someone with talk, but supporting the person with action is very difficult. It becomes even more amazing when these are people who put aside all differences you have had with them over the years. I was touched by selflessness.

I also realise today that money is not something that rules the world. Relations and mutual understandings are all that matter at the end. There were a lot of trusts that were broken and a lot of new hopes that were made during this wedding. I have started to respect some people like I have never before and am happy for this wedding to be the cause for it!

I always lived in the premonition that love required a language that connects. I thought I could not love a person who never spoke my language. Seeing my sister and husband blissfully wed I broke that thinking. English has truly become a global language!

Anyways the wedding's over and I feel a strange peace now. I hope my sis has a happy married life!!

Shopping, shopping and more shopping!

I never knew shopping could be so tiring. It has taken me a week to recover from the wedding shopping we did last week. Two short days and lots of shopping. Walking around, checking out stuff and buying loads of clothes. It was then I realised how many relatives I have and how much of shopping we had to do!

But then like all girls I loved those two days. Picturising what would look best on who, whether they would like it, wondering how to carry stuff, thinking what to wear on which day and so on! I bet my mom was the appiest woman on earth that day. I always say-Leave my mom in Shivaji Nagar bazaar with money in her hand she would never find a better way to spend a day!

Meanwhile I discovered a lovely saree shopping place, Nalli silks. I had always heard of the place and seen it on ads but was marvelled by the place. Sarees of all prices and all varieties. Any woman's fantasy. We bought the wedding and reception saree from here. The moment I cast my eyes on those sarees I knew it was "Love at first Sight"!! Great place to do a wedding shopping.

There's just a week to go and I feel there is so much more to do. It's slowly dawning on me that the moment is so near...

Sister's engagement

I have been busy for the past week. My sister just got engaged on 21st Jan. The function was held at home and that really meant work!! At the end of the day, all went well and we had a blast too.

It was so nice to have an occassion to celebrate at home. From the time we have shifted to our new home 4 years ago we have been having one tragedy followed by another every year. This stopped us from fixing up any event at home. This was after 5 years but worth the wait.

So here's a snap of the happy couple. The wedding's fixed on 21st February and that means more work!!

Venky's wedding!!

Been a long time I have posted anything…Was just busy over the past week. I had to attend one of my close friend’s wedding last week. Had heaps of fun!! The reception day was full of masti where we danced and sang till late night with lots of food. I was amazed at how much jovial these people can be…I mean the last thing I expect in Kerala wedding is the bride and groom’s family dancing to “Appidi podu, podu”

There were some customs I found very amusing. One was the Kashi Yatre, where the groom pretends to be very angry as nobody is searching for a bride for him. So my friend went off with a walking stick, an umbrella, a fan, a coconut, a small packet of rice and dal, and a dhoti. He was then brought back by the bride’s relatives who convince him that they would give him their girl…( LOL…Indian rituals!)

Another amusing one is where the bride is brought to the mandap and no one is supposed to see her face, so the bride and groom stand on the either side of a white cloth. And I still don’t know why they stood in buckets during the wedding…Anyone please explain this to me…The last bit is the fun part where Okhli is played. The groom’s ring is dipped in the colored water and the bride and her brothers have to search for it. Other games like throwing coloured rice on each other, rocking a doll in cradle and what not!!
I had lots of fun at the wedding and was curious all the time as to what happens next!!

Gloom shadows me..

I’m going home this weekend for Vishu. Happy because this is going to be the first celebration in my home after 3 years of consecutive deaths in the family. But still my mind is at unrest. Festival celebrations means the entire family coming together for lunch. The joint family I live in it is about 40 to 50 heads.

Would have loved that on any normal day. But times have changed. The same questions from every one. Why aren’t you getting married? What is happening? A few aunts will come with silence and ask is there someone in Bangalore? They stare at me with a look that drives me up the wall.

There is one part of the mind that says I don’t care the damn for anything anyone says. But is that so really? Can I say “It’s my life!” to these people? Do I really not care? Yes I do..I love all these people so much. What I am today is because of them. They don’t understand my helplessness. And I don’t understand their concern? Or should I say I misunderstand their concern. Don’t know..

A Formal apology!!!

Was chatting with my school day juniors today..As usual the same old question popped up yet again! “Any marriage plans?” My usual reply too…It’s on the cards…Not much happening but. Now how many times have I said the same answer to different people I know….Hmm…Should keep count…

As I told Girish…yeah I keep seeing guys every week but nothings progressing. Just a cup of coffee every week…he he!! Yeah frankly speaking I used to be tensed about this boy seeing situation before. But I guess…as they say practice makes perfect!! I used to dress up for the mega event in the beginning but now it's like what the hell!! This is how I am…Take it or leave it!!

I’ve wondered what would be the state of mind of these guys who are coming to see me. I mean it really doesn’t mean anything to me now. But when I see these guys coming in their best of formal clothes, neatly tucked in and shoes shinning bright…I am really amused!! They come in the belief to meet this extremely good looking girl who would be the other half of the bone they have? Gross!!!

There are a lot of things I notice during those times…See the funniest part is I really don’t even have to consider most of the guys I meet. I mean guys have a feeling they are really tall and put in stats like 170 cm but unfortunately their scales fail them when in front of me!! So I check out other things. They put on super perfumes that day! Their hair is all gelled up and in place. All seem to carry a comb anyways as they seem groomed even after ride on bike with helmets (compulsory in Bangalore now a days). They pick all the smart places to coffee…Café Day, Barista, oo la la!!
This post is a formal apology to all those guys who would have come with so many expectations but I failed them desperately...Hope you all find your perfect suitor!!

Love marriage....

Love has been an important phase in my life since a long time.I have been always this romantic person who lives in the world of Shah Rukh Khan movies.I think that's exactly the reason why I find making a decision of choosing a life partner is getting so difficult for me.At times I really don't know what is it that I am waiting for or should I say who is it that I am waiting for!! All and the same.
There is so much of confusion at the present in my life.How do I say yes to a person who I have just met for a few minutes? How do I know he is what he seems like at that first meeting? How do I believe that he is speaking true to his heart? I have no idea as to how people work out arranged marriages...
Yes there are arranged and love marriages that go sour at one point or another. So it's all fate in one sense. So why not leave it to destiny. Let destiny take its own path and show my the light out of this situation...

Home sweet home???

Just returned to Bangalore after 3 days in Kerala. Yeah there was this time home used to be sweet home...My heart used to literally ache to be at home lazing around.This time when I went down I was sitting at home at that evening time when mom had lit the lamp.There was this strange silence that engulfed me from all over.A sudden blank in life. I didn't know what I was doing at that stage.An emptiness as if nothing to do.I swear for a second it was maddening.
Then started the good old marriage proposal talks and I was like Oh No not again??? Why not leave me out of this??? Give me a break people.. Yeah yeah I know I'm 25...have to get married etc etc but hey such an important decision in life...someone give me some time...
Whatever it is I really felt that returning back to this place where I hardly know a few people is much relaxing than living midst all those people who really know me but still don't know me!!!!